Attraction

when someone say "He/She is very attractive" they are talking about that person's looks
but when you are looking for someone to spend your whole life with, you have to look behind external appeal
things like personality and other person's ability comes in play as well
young people rely on looks to find their boyfriend/girlfriend
but i found out that looks are not the only thing that i should find attractive

during my high school years, group friends would get together and talk about what type of girls we are into
we all agreed that cute girls are better than hot girls
we all also agree that sex appeal was one of main points
bigger breasts and hips, sexy legs, and flat stomach, it was the ideal girl for all of us
we would not even talk about girl's characteristics or personality
but now that i am reaching 20s i began to look for more in a girl, like personality
and my idea of perfect girl changed

i stopped caring about breast/hip size and even height
maybe i am maturing or maybe its because i learned that "Mom Test" decreases number of candidates (mom test shrinks the number of girls i can date and be in relationship with)idk but description of my crush does not fit my high school description of a perfect girl

my current crush is bit on a short side, (she mentions that she is short constantly, always comparing her height to her younger sister, who is bit taller than her)
she has average size breasts and hips (from my observation, plz dont think of me as a pervert)
she is cute
she is pretty smart
she has outgoing personality
and she will always be beautiful to me

btw many girls do not know this, but certain hairstyles also attract guys,
i think ponytails are sexy
some of my friends like long hair

and here is word of encouragement, you girls are beautiful
so dont be discouraged when you watch Victoria Secret's fashion show
most guys would prefer average girl over a lingerie model

it seems that today's teenage girls are discouraged about their looks